my thoughts

It seems as though today, people are constantly judging others—whether its celebrities or just everyday average Joe’s trying to “live life to the fullest.” Now, I know we are all not perfect in anyway, shape, or form. But just try for a day, an hour, (and if worse comes to worse), a minute and try to see someone for who they really are, without judging them. I am not saying that I am perfect either—trust me I have gossiped and spread rumours about others in my time.
A recent “intense” conversation with an anonymous friend got me thinking about all of this. So many times we just others without knowing the whole story or in another case, not knowing the person at all. In today’s world, judgement has become such a thing that we do it all the time—sometimes we often do not even realize what we have said until it just so happen comes out later. The sad thing about this is that we start to judge the ones that are so close and dear to our hearts without realizing it; also pushing them away from us. Then there’s those anonymous people; what about them? What about those people that know that they are constantly been judged and gossiped about? What ever happens to them?
Judgement and gossip are a lot alike but if you look at it in a different way judgement than leads to gossip (and gossip, half the time not even being true). Based on someone else’s opinion that was shared with another—word seems to get around in a small town. Gossip almost makes me sick to my stomach. I’m sure everyone has thought about this next point sometime or another. But let’s say we have person A and you. Person A starts talking about one of your good friends, in ways that you don’t want to hear about. Don’t you ever start to wonder what people say about you behind your back? It’s a constant fear that we all have—people or friends doing or saying things behind our backs. Sometimes I wish they would just say it to my face, but would that hurt more than them saying it behind my back. Them saying it behind my back, there is a good chance that I will not find out. All of us need some kind of affirmation from others. How are we supposed to get this affirmation knowing that things are being said about us behind our backs…them gossiping about us?
Judgement is a very big and broad topic to be writing about and there is so much to be said. I can’t believe how rumours can be spread from one person to another in just one moment. I know this is going to sound brutal, and not so subtle. But if I was to die tomorrow, I would only regret very few things. And one of those things would have to be; judging others, gossiping about others, and spreading rumours about each other. I am so afraid of people judging me—but that does not give me the benefit to judge them right back. I feel so horrible sometimes on what I have said about others.
All of this “intense” conversation came out this? In my situation, it was my extended family, and still is today. There are a lot of us; so it is very difficult for us to actually be friends and know each other on a personal basis. I don’t know. I’m just so afraid of them judging me for who I really am that I am scared to tell them what I am thinking at that very moment. I am scared of them; they are supposed to be my family. It sounds horrible, I know. But because I don’t know you; I’m not going to tell you when I’m mad, tell you when I’m sad, tell you when I need something from you. Most of you, probably have seen the “real” me. And our hope is that as we get older, maybe we can put our differences aside for just one instance and be ourselves which each other for just one moment. Share life’s memories together. Thank you my anonymous friend!